I mostly mean two way street in the sense that there are also scenarios where you’ve been written off by someone else, and once that happens there’s very little you can do about it.

I typically don’t discuss theory with other people directly, but usually more practical matters like walkable curious cities/neighborhood, identifying causes of bad behavior instead of policing symptoms (e.g. ppl littering in a space with no trash cans available), explaining why some folks including myself don’t feel safe around police, how it’s not as simple as “hard work pays off”, and similar subjects to my somewhat privileged direct and extended family members. There was a lot of discussion during COVID where I was trying to explain to people that even if masks aren’t 100% effective that you should wear them anyways (that even if it were only 10% effective that it makes a big difference on a population scale), that we genuinely could have made the disease into a non-issue if we took it seriously and viewed stuff like lockdowns and social distancing as a civic duty instead of some weird deep state control conspiracy theory thing. I’m also prone to being a little one-note on pointing out profit movies behind a ton of terrible things that keep happening all over the place.

On another point though, there are legitimately people so radicalized in the opposite direction that they’d kill people like me if they had an excuse and the opportunity to. Others functionally are obstacles because of the job they hold or capitalist propaganda they never questioned. What do I call such people? Even “enemy” is too strong a term for most, the roles such people serve are adversarial nonetheless.