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Cake day: June 22nd, 2024

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  • Asking for help moving will show you really how far some people will go for you.

    That’s quite the drastic conclusion to draw from people telling you when they are available (and that not being literally always) to help you for something you most like presented as not critical or dramatic when you asked them. Do you seriously expect people to preemptively cancel all their existing plans based on a hunch you might judge their whole character and the sincerity of your friendship on the sole trigger of a seemingly innocent “hey, when would you be available to help me move?”?

    If you want to at least give people a chance to adjust, don’t ask “when are you available?”, instead try “[date] is when I want to move, can you fit helping me then into your schedule?” at least a few weeks ahead of that date.





  • Reminds me of a workplace story a friend of mine told me years ago:

    On the desk opposite of her there was a colleague who insisted on wearing open shoes without socks to work every day. Due to proper AC that was a bit chilly at the feet so she brought a noisy space heater to warm her feet. And when other people complained about the noise she was shocked about how people could be so selfish and demand that she has to freeze. Could not see any other way out of that dilemma.